It is heart-breaking how even in the 21st century our society fails to understand that motherhood is a choice. One among the many women, who have raised their voices to change society’s perception about motherhood is actress Urmila Matondkar.
Urmila Matondkar, who ruled our hearts during the 90s, has been away from mainstream cinema for almost two decades now, especially after her marriage with Mohsin Akhtar in 2016.
Urmila Matondkar’s unconventional take on motherhood
Like her movies, when it comes to motherhood, Urmila Matondkar isn’t conventional. While talking about embracing motherhood, she told The Times Of India, “Yes and no. If it happens, it happens. I’m not looking forward to it nor am I ‘not looking forward to it. It’s not necessary for every woman to be a mother. Motherhood should happen for the right reason. I love children. But there are so many children out there who need our love and care. It’s not necessary that they be born from you.”
It is high time the society should normalize the choice of being childfree. We should stop using children as a yardstick to label women’s life ‘complete’. Women are complete with or without kids. It is sad how our society blinds itself to all the achievements that women made if they choose to be childfree.
Dear Society, different women have different priorities. So, please start supporting our choices. Motherhood is not mandatory. It is a choice that women only have the right to make. Please stop judging women for deferring motherhood or even choosing not to have a child. Like motherhood is normal, so is being childfree. The decision of whether someone wants to start a family is a matter of personal choice!