Recently Aamir Khan’s lunch date with daughter Ira caught a lot of attention – and, especially from the busy parents – like you and me.
It put us in a self -reflection mode to introspect our priorities, commitments and actions.
As kids grow, they not just outgrow their old clothes but also their dependence on parents. If we don’t take out time to spend time with them, they might find themselves more detached from us. And, this is true for so many modern Indian families!
If you or your husband are one of us, who unknowingly prioritised their work commitments over family commitments, then it’s high time that we learn a parenting lesson from one of the most committed and successful actors of today.
Even after being one of the busiest actors, Aamir Khan took to social media to share his New Year’s resolution for spending more time with is children.
So, what we can do to raise a family where children are well connected with their parents. Here are some tips that you and your husband can explore to stay connected with your children!
1. Stop Telling Yourself That You Don’t Have Time
Most of the times, we give ourselves an excuse – of being busy – for not spending time with our kids. In those moments, we hardly even push ourselves to find alternatives to spend time with our kids.
So, next time when your mind throws back an excuse of being busy, tell yourself –
It is not about TIME; It is about CHOICE.
And I choose to spend time with my kids because I need them, more than they need me.
When you start telling yourself this golden mantra, you put yourself into a mental frame of making time for your kids. Because we make time for the things that matter!
2. There Is No Short-cut: Spend Time With Them!
How do you make someone fell in love with you? By being there for them – in the moments of joy and sadness.
In the same way, if you want your kids to fall in love with you, you need to show them that you are there for them. You need to be present at most of their key events – be it a PTA meeting, annual programme, a game, or any other event; make sure you and your spouse take turns to be there.
And, most importantly you need to know them as a person!
Take them out for a nice dinner or on an outing to spend some quality time together. Try to understand who they really are as a person? What are their dreams and aspirations? And, then find out ways to help them in getting a step closer to their dreams. You can share thoughts, stories, inspirations and more!
Please don’t misunderstand it as a time when you merely give them instructions or try to push them to fulfill your dreams or yell at them for their failures.
3. Know Your Kids’ Friends!
This might do wonders for you!
Try to find out your kids’ best friends or the people that they admire or love spending time with and then find ways to interact with them when possible. This will definitely strengthen your bond with your child.
4. Build New Traditions & Rituals
Do you have specific family traditions for weekends or festivals or school breaks or birthdays?
If yes, then try to take out time to continue with family traditions. If not, then try to create family traditions – like watching cricket game on TV together or visiting a favourite food joint during the weekend.
This will not only help you in staying connected with your kids but also help you in creating new memories.
5. Plan Activities Together
Along with the family traditions and rituals, try to indulge in new activities with your children. It helps you to work as a team and also gives a chance to make temperamental adjustments to each other.
You can either plan to take up a new hobby like solving brain games, going out shopping, learning dance, photography or cooking and ask your child to help you with it.
6. Take Their Opinion
Most importantly, try to remember that your kids are growing and are developing their point of view on things. The kind of connect that you would establish by seeking your kid’s opinion on certain family matters is beyond comparison with other tactics.
When you seek an opinion from your kids, it lets your kids be open to seeking your opinion too – which helps a family stay connected!
We are sure there are many more ways to stay connected with your kids. In case you follow a special way to stay connected with your kids, do let us know and we would include it in the list.