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Inspired By His Parents, Bill Gates Follows Love & Logic Parenting Formula To Raise Successful Kids

by IForHer Team
February 22, 2020

As a parent we tend to give our children a good start in life—we nurture, protect and guide them. Many of us follow different parenting styles, Bill Gates’s parenting style of Love & Logic could be helpful in raising independent and strong kids.

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When it comes to parenting his three children, the billionaire Microsoft mogul shares how his wife Melinda and he follow the “Love and Logic” parenting model for raising their three children, who are now 17, 20, and 23 years old.

The model was created by a psychiatrist, psychologist and school principal and is based on 40 years of research and experience. And while Gates has said it’s not exactly how he was raised, there are principles within it that are undeniably similar to his parents’ approach.

Here are the central tenants of the model Bill and Melinda Gates use to raise their children.

#1: Keep your emotions and your tongue in check

Developed by a former school administrator, a psychiatrist, and a school psychologist, the Love & Logic parenting model helps moms and dads learn how to manage their own emotions when disciplining their children. Hence, instead of yelling or scolding, it guides parents to use love and empathy to address issues with their children.

One of the co-founders of the method, Charles wrote:

“One of the greatest benefits of applying Love and Logic is that it helps us learn how to keep a tighter leash on our emotions and on our tongues.

Many highly successful people struggled with grades as children. What’s most important is that our children develop good character, curiosity, and problem-solving skills.”

He adds, during an emotional assault when a child trying to push your buttons, just remember – Don’t shout and avoid an emotional response.

At first, he cautions, as you don’t respond back with emotion, they push harder, until they eventually realize their button-pushing tactics won’t work. And when it doesn’t work, parents regain control. Control that you’ve established real limits to how far they can push you.

#2: Let Them Find Their Own Answers

Bill Gates shares how the model pushes parents to focus on asking questions of their kids and getting them to think about how to solve their own problems, instead of feeding them answers.

All of this echoes a key principle of Bill Gates’ parents – not to limit son Bill’s independence or let him give up on things he wasn’t good at.

The founders of the model say the empowerment approach works because it emphasizes respect and dignity for the child. Along with that, it teaches consequences and smart decision making.

Realizing how difficult it is for any parent to see their kids fail, Gates shared:

“All that said, it’s hard to watch your child fail. I’ve come to realize that those failures hurt you far more than they hurt your child. My daughter is more resilient than I sometimes give her credit for. The pain of failure passes very quickly and is soon replaced with calm realizations of lessons learned (even if they won’t admit it in the moment).”

#3: Making Them Love Unconditionally

Lastly, the Love and Logic parenting method promotes the belief that kids should be loved unconditionally for who they are – not just for their achievements. The core idea is centered on minimizing emotional reactions like shouting or punishing kids.

In other words, the love and logic model stresses the importance of not leaning into rewards or punishment for kids. It focuses on demonstrating unconditional love and admiring kids for who they are, not what they do (or don’t) achieve – like a poor test score or a bad grade.

But, it wasn’t the only way Gates have set boundaries for his children while they were growing up.

None of his kids owned a cell phone until they were 14 years old. The children also attended church regularly with their parents.

Bill Gates has also decided on a unique thing about his inheritance. His kids would each get about $10 million of their parents’ fortune as inheritance, a mere fraction of the mogul’s roughly $90 billion net worth.

While recalling why he doesn’t want to shower all the money on his kids, he shared:

“We want to strike a balance where they have the freedom to do anything, but not a lot of money showered on them so they could go out and do nothing.”

So, what happens when a parent remains calm, cool and collected?

According to the research when parents follow Love and Logic, children are not only less likely to throw fits, argue or talk back but also have more positive interactions with them.

Parenting is absolutely stressful. No matter how much you try to stay calm when dealing with a difficult situation, it can sometimes feel impossible. But Love and Logic does give parents a good place to start.

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