In a society, where many are told to stay in an unhappy marriage for kids, we are thankful to Kajol for speaking up about how being raised by separated parents is better than raised by unhappy parents, who are together!
In her recent interview, Kajol opened up about her childhood days. She spoke about her parents separating when she was only four-and-a-half-year-old.
While talking about her parents, Shomu Mukherjee and Tanuja’s separation when she was only four-and-a-half-year-old, Kajol said:
“I had the most amazing upbringing ever. I am very lucky to have been brought up by such a forward-thinking, amazing person who taught me so much about life, growing up and about being an adult from the time that I was a child. But I totally get if it had gone even slightly wrong what it would have been like.”
“My parents separated when I was about four-and-a-half years old and it could have gone very wrong. I have so many friends whose parents are together till today but not in the best spaces. They have not had great childhoods. I loved my father separately, I loved my mother separately and I loved them together as well.”
It is important for parents to raise kids in a safe and secure environment. Many times, for the sake of ‘log kya kahengey’, many couples choose to stick together but fail to give their kids a safe and happy home environment to grow. Under the toxicity of constant fights and abuse, the kids had to struggle with so many mental and emotional health issues throughout their lives.
Not just Kajol, even sometime back, Konkana Sen also spoke about her childhood and how she felt her parents’ separation, helped her in being a better person.
“I had a liberal upbringing with unconventional parents who are my inspiration. My parents (Aparna Sen and Mukul Sharma), were divorced when I was six. I was lucky as both of them married wonderful people. So while I lived with my mother, I had parents who were amicable and I actually landed up with two sets of wonderful parents. My mother always said ‘it’s better for a child to have happy parents apart rather than unhappy parents together’. I have always believed that if you grow up seeing happy people, have good energy and have resources within yourself to make yourself happy, you will be happy.”
It is always better to raise kids in a happy environment.
So, rather than thinking about ‘Iog kya kahengey’, we hope parents would start thinking about their own happiness and their kids’ happiness. Because in the end, every child deserves to be raised in a happy and safe environment!