In times, when women are striving hard to be at par with men in all the professional fields, it is heartbreaking how they are still struggling to get equal respect at home.
Focusing on the women’s struggle to seek respect, here is a heart-warming note on how this mother raised her daughter to not only give respect but also demand respect.
When I held my daughter for the first time in my arms, I made a promise to myself that I would raise a strong and independent daughter. I would raise a daughter, who could challenge the social norms and carve her own path. I would raise a daughter that not only know how to treat others but would also know how to be treated. Living in a society, where daughters are mainly taught how to give respect, I promised myself to teach my daughter how to demand respect too!
Though society may label her as a Rebel, I am very happy how she has turned out.
Many believed that my daughter would have issues after marriage because many Indian families won’t meet her expectations as our society hardly gives respect to daughter-in-law. To which, I always believed that my daughter shouldn’t even stay in a place where she doesn’t get respect.
Here’s what I have taught my daughter and I believe every daughter needs to be taught.
I taught my daughter – HOME IS WHERE RESPECT IS!
If a family just wants to seek respect from my daughter but can’t give back the same, they don’t deserve my daughter in the first place. No one can insult my daughter just because she isn’t ready to bow down to the regressive patriarchal mindset.
I taught her that her dreams are as important as anyone else!
In a society, where men’s careers and dreams are treated more important than women’s. I raised my daughter to believe in her dreams. I have raised her to never let anyone tell her how her career and dreams are any less important than others.
It is heartbreaking how so many women are asked to sacrifice their own careers in name of building better families. I have raised my daughter to not let anyone make her feel that her career is secondary or any less important than her partners. As parents, we gave her wings and taught her how to fly. We can’t let anyone clip her wings.
I had taught her that someone who doesn’t value her emotions, don’t deserve her
Many times, we forget to teach our daughters how they need to be treated. Many women suffer in silence in toxic relationships just for the sake of their marriage to work. It is heartbreaking how as a society, we teach our daughters to suffer in marriage than to come back home. If a woman feels lonely, cheated, or abused and her partner refuses to value her emotions and feelings, then she should have the courage to move out of that relationships.
Most importantly, I taught her that not only she should treat others with KINDNESS & LOVE but she also needs to be treated with the same
It is heartbreaking how many daughters are expected to treat people with kindness and love. But, when they demand to be treated with kindness and love, they are called attention seekers or drama queens.
As a parent, it is our job to teach our daughters how to value themselves. We need to raise them to be confident and independent women, who know how to be treated well. It doesn’t matter whether society labels our strong and independent daughter as a rebel or badtameez. As long as they get the respect they deserve and they can fly greater heights, we should feel happy as parents!