In the world, where daughters are raised to be nothing less than perfect, this mother’s powerful Facebook post for her daughter is a must-read.
“Girls, don’t talk loudly! Sit like a girl! How could you act so inappropriately? That’s not very lady-like! Stop showing your anger! Women are supposed to be calm and compose. You can’t raise your voice at your husband or his parents”
It is heartbreaking how we raise our daughters to be these perfect souls, who have to abide by our society’s regressive rules to be a woman. Rather than raising them as strong and independent women, we tend to raise them as someone who fits into the bill of being a perfect polite woman.
But there are some parents, who are taking a stand against the patriarchal society. They are raising their daughters to be strong and independent women, who take pride in being their real selves. They are teaching their daughters who to be happy about their flaws and celebrate their imperfect souls without any regrets.
A few years back, one such mother shared a heart-touching post to motivate her 5-year-old daughter to be nothing but her real self. We felt this powerful post is a must-read for all those parents who are raising strong daughters. While sharing the fierce message to her and many other daughters in the world, the lady mentioned in her post:
“To my daughter,
Don’t apologize when someone else bumps into you.
Don’t say “sorry to be such a pain.” You’re not a pain. You’re a person with thoughts and feelings who deserves respect.
Don’t makeup reasons as to why you can’t go out with a guy you don’t wanna go out with. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. A simple “no thanks” should be acceptable.
Don’t overthink what you eat in front of people. If you’re hungry, eat, and eat what you want. If you want pizza, don’t get a salad just because other people are around. Order the damn pizza.
Don’t keep your hair long to make someone else happy.
Don’t wear a dress if you don’t want to.
Don’t stay home because you don’t have anyone to go out with. Take yourself out. Have experiences by yourself and for yourself.
Don’t hold back your tears. Crying means you’re feeling something that needs to get out. It’s not a weakness. It’s being human.
Don’t smile because someone told you to.
Don’t be afraid to laugh at your own jokes.
Don’t say “yes” to be polite. Say “no” because it’s your life.
Don’t hide your opinions. Speak up and speak loudly. You should be heard.
Don’t apologize for being who you are. Be brave and bold and beautiful. Be unapologetically you.”
This beautiful post wasn’t only shared multiple times but many women also came forward to share some of the most beautiful comments:
1. No Is A Complete Sentence
2. Stop Being Too Apologetic
3. Sons Should Made Be Aware Too
4. Even Grown Up Women Need To Know
5. Self Acceptance Is The Key To Happy Life
6. To Be Confident, Own Who You Are
7. Becoming A Better Person
8. To Be Confident Without Being Arrogant
At IFORHER, we are awe in of these inspiring women, who are coming forward to change the way we have raised our daughters. We are extremely proud of how this powerful post gave voice to many mothers across the world.
Rather than raising women to fit in the regressive mold of society’s norms, we need more parents to raise daughters who are not scared to love themselves. We need to raise our daughters so that the patriarchal society can’t dim their light.