Like many Indian women in late 20s, I embarked on a journey to meet various men from different walks of life to find “The One” who would be my soul-mate.
My MBA degree and a well-paid job weren’t enough to qualify as “settled” in the eyes of my parents and society. I was falling short on a major criteria – Marriage. So, I started meeting men to add my name to the list of people who are considered as settle.
During my journey, I met a man who gave me the best parenting lesson ever! Though I was not married yet, I knew what kind of son I won’t raise.
We meet at a coffee shop, where I had the worst conversation of my life ever:
*After brief introduction*
Me: So, what are you looking into your life partner?
He: I don’t have a checklist. But, I guess someone who is educated, smart, intelligent and a professional. Knows how to cook awesome food as I am a foodie!
*He laughs assuming that he has cracked a joke*
Me: But I don’t know how to cook food!
He: You shouldn’t worry – your mom will teach you everything before you will get married. She will tell you how to do all basic stuff!
Me: What basic stuff?
He: Doing laundry, managing other household activities – dishes etc.
*Silence for a few minutes*
He: What are you looking for in your husband? Guess someone, who is MBA from IIMs, has 20L+ package and with a matching family status. What more any girl needs from her perfect match!
*He laughed again as if he has cracked another joke*
Me: Hmm, the qualifications that you listed will only make the man a good enough but not a perfect match. Does he know how to cook? Does he know how to do laundry? Does he know how to wash the dishes?
He: You don’t want a husband, you want a maid?
Me: I wish you could have said the same thing when you talked about things you looking for in your wife?
For the obvious reason, the meeting got shorter and thankfully, my parents never heard back from his family. But this interaction left me sad and disheartened!
It made me feel how our society has so many expectations from its women but so less from its men.
We teach our daughters not only to be great at her studies but also be great at managing household activities.
Why we don’t treat our boys in the same way we treat our daughters?
Why we don’t teach our sons what we have been teaching our daughters?
Or, Why we don’t teach our boys to share the load?
After 6 years of that hated interaction, I saw a beautiful message that made me realise how our society is changing!
How mothers not only expect daughters to do household chores but are making an effort to have their sons contribute too!
The powerful message “Share The Load” drafted by Ariel is a crash course for all Indian moms on how to make our society treat its daughters equally.
Here’s the inspiring message that will definitely bring a smile on your face:
Hope this message will spread far & wide, and we will soon be teaching our sons what we have been teaching only our daughters!
Let’s make a world which respects EQUALITY because it takes TWO to TANGO!