Being a parent is never easy. But, what is even more difficult is losing your child. Miscarriage is a living nightmare for many mothers and fathers. While the parents grief their unborn child, it is the reaction of the society that turns the tragedy even more painful.
From poking relatives to online trollers, our society not only acts in a cruel fashion but also shows no empathy to the grieving parents. Hence many choose to suffer the pain of losing their unborn child in silence.
But recently, Meghan Markle wrote a heart-touching post on her pain and why we need to be more compassionate as a society to the grieving parents.
In a heart-touching and emotional post, Meghan Markle, the Duchess of Sussex, shared her experience of losing a child. While describing her miscarriage in an opinion piece in the New York Times, Meghan mentioned:
“It was a July morning that began as ordinarily as any other day: Make breakfast. Feed the dogs. Take vitamins. Find that missing sock. Pick up the rogue crayon that rolled under the table. Throw my hair in a ponytail before getting my son from his crib.
After changing his diaper, I felt a sharp cramp. I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that something was not right.
I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second.
Hours later, I lay in a hospital bed, holding my husband’s hand. I felt the clamminess of his palm and kissed his knuckles, wet from both our tears. Staring at the cold white walls, my eyes glazed over. I tried to imagine how we’d heal.”
Speaking about how thousands of women suffer the pain of losing a child in silence, Meghan further added:
“Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few. In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered that in a room of 100 women, 10 to 20 of them will have suffered from miscarriage. Yet despite the staggering commonality of this pain, the conversation remains taboo, riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning.”
Not just Meghan, but many strong women have gathered the courage to speak about their miscarriages in the hope to give courage to other grieving mothers.
At IFORHER, we wish Meghan and Harry the strength and courage to bear the pain of this loss. And, we hope their story of grief will give power to many more grieving parents to bear the loss of their child.