This Heart-touching Letter To Mother-in-law From Daughter-in-law on how she is trying hard to be part of family but still feels like an outsider and not a part of the family!
Yesterday, when you asked me why I didn’t treat this home as my own? I was stumped. I was too emotional to say anything at that particular moment.But, later in the night, I kept tossing in my bed thinking if I should ignore your words and feeling or should I gather the courage to put across my point-of-view? Definitely, ignoring your words would have been a much easier option to avoid any sort of conflicts or hard-feelings but I chose to take a difficult path of sharing my thoughts in a hope that it might improve our relationship.
But did it really happen? Do you treat me like your own daughter?
For a long time, I kept quiet to make sure that you are not hurt. But, when you asked me that question yesterday I felt hurt. And, I was left no other option but to speak up. If you would ask yourself honestly – why I don’t treat this home as my own, you will definitely find the answer. After having married for more than two years, I would like to ask you how long would it take for me to be a part of your family? That’s all I want to know! (ALSO READ:Difference Between Bahu and Beti? Kareena Kapoor Asks Her Mother-In-Law Sharmila Tagore)
It is so sad to know that family to which my husband belongs, is still not mine.
You might be wondering why am I saying this. Sadly, on multiple occasions, it felt it’s only yours and my husbands’ home. Why is it fine for your son to wake up late but not fine for me? If it was my house, I would be able to wake up a bit late without being judged.
When you are not well, I make sure you are taken care of very well, but when my mother is not well, I need to seek permission to stay with her for a day or two?
Why can’t I make a decision on my own, why I am expected to seek permission? Tell me, how can I consider you as my parents, how can I consider your home like mine? When will you accept me as a part of your family? That’s all I want to know!
Because I am tired of being homeless now. Yes, Homeless!
I wish soon a day will come when I will be treated as an equal part of this family! The day when I will feel free to suggest or make a decision here?
I will be eagerly waiting for that day! The day when I don’t have to pretend to be someone else. When I can celebrate myself! Hope you will give our relationship a chance and embrace me as your daughter!
P.S.: Dear Society, Please let the daughter in your daughter-in-law come out as she is married into your family. Don’t be Parent-in-laws’ to her but be a Parent! Because she deserves it!
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