We welcome our daughters-in-law in our homes and families with a huge burden of expectations. We overburden them with our unfair expectations so much that they hardly live their lives for themselves. Whenever those unfair expectations are not fulfilled, we blame them, curse them or label them as not “good enough” daughters-in-law.
While so many loving daughters-in-law strive hard to fulfill expectations, many families refuse to acknowledge their efforts without expressing any gratitude. This lack of gratitude from the family is the reason why so many daughters-in-law feel they are either treated as educated maids or caretakers or nannies or hired unpaid employees!
In order to treat the daughters-in-law right, here are the reasons why you need to express your gratitude and be thankful to them; rather than cursing them for not fulfilling your expectations.
Be thankful to your daughter-in-law for leaving her house and family to join yours
It’s never easy to leave your family and parents behind. It’s never easy to start living your life with a new set of people in a new home. While others hardly make any adjustments, she has to make so many with home and family. So, next time rather than telling her – “You are not the only girl, who has got married and left her family! Adjust as others do!” please show some GRATITUDE. Be thankful to her that she made such a huge sacrifice for this marriage!
Be thankful to your daughter-in-law for taking care of you as her own parents
Rather than grouping against her or treating her like an outsider, accept her. Because while you were striving hard to make her feel like an outsider, she was trying hard to accept you as her own parents and family!
Be thankful to your daughter-in-law for being the biggest supporter of your son
No one except your daughter-in-law is as concerned about your son’s happiness as you. Irrespective of how tough life will turn, she will always stand by your son’s side! So, at least out of your son’s love, be thankful to her for being your son’s biggest support!
Be thankful to your daughter-in-law for trying hard to make everyone happy
While she strives hard to make everyone happy, you refuse to acknowledge her efforts. You offload your unfair expectations on her in the name of “Kartavya”. You expect her to fulfill them and when she fails, you curse her or blame her for not being a good daughter-in-law or wife! For once, can we have some praise for the daughter-in-law for doing so much?
Be thankful to your daughter-in-law for being there for everyone
While we expect her to be there for everyone, there is hardly anyone there for her! She is there to take care of her in-laws when they are not feeling well, she is there to cheer up her husband when he had a bad day; then why she is all alone when she needs someone? So, please be thankful to her for being there for everyone and make sure when she needs someone, she is not alone!
Be thankful to your daughter-in-law for being your courage during dark times
During any family crisis – be it financial or emotional, she always comes forward to shield the whole family. She turns into this courageous warrior, who has only one objective, to keep her family safe during the dark times! She is the ultimate protector! But rather than applauding this protector, we tend to abuse her or harass her!
So, please stop cursing your daughter-in-law and start being thankful to her for being a real-life hero for your family!
Dear Society Here’s a humble request: Rather than cursing or blaming your daughter-in-law, please be thankful to them. Please celebrate them! Please applaud them!
They deserve it!