Marriage is a beautiful relationship that gives you a companion for life. But, the same relationship can turn your life into a nightmare, if you are married to a selfish husband. From not sharing responsibilities to bossing others around, selfish husband can turn wife’s life into a living hell.
But, how could you tell if a man is a selfish husband or not? Don’t worry! It’s not that difficult. Here are some sure shot signs that can help anyone to spot a selfish husband!
Here are the probable signs of a selfish husband:
1. Selfish husband always bosses around: A selfish husband will always make sure that he wears the pants in the family. He likes bossing people, especially the wife, which gives him a superior feeling to others.
2. Selfish husband is full of himself: A selfish husband only talks about his interests or his matters. He is not at-all bothered about the wife or her daily matters or her achievements. He always likes to stay in the limelight and strives really hard to grab the attention of the family, relatives and friends. He talks about himself so much that it may feel that you don’t even exist.
3. Selfish husband always finds faults with you: A selfish husband is never satisfied with others, especially his wife. He is critical and always tries to find faults in the things you do. He considers himself a perfectionist and feels no one is perfect in this world except him.
4. Selfish husband never apologizes or owns up his mistakes: A selfish husband never apologizes for his mistakes. He never admits his mistakes. And, even if he understands that he has committed a mistake, he doesn’t own it up. He acts as if nothing has happened. He thinks he is so perfect that he can never make a mistake.
5. Selfish husband is not grateful for the things you do for him: He never thanks you! A selfish husband never acknowledges your efforts, hence he is not thankful for the work you do for the house or him. He always takes you for granted hence doesn’t feel the necessity to say a basic ‘Thank You’.
6. Selfish husband never compliments you: Any wife would yearn for compliments from her husband. But if your husband turns out to be selfish, he would never reach out to compliment you. Not just in public, the selfish husband would not compliment you even in the private moments.
7. Selfish husband doesn’t display any signs of affection: Displays of affection even if it is not public, play an important role in a relationship. A selfish husband will never make an effort to express any affection for you. He will not hold hands or initiate any kind of love and won’t indulge in any affectionate gestures.
8. Selfish husband doesn’t discuss anything important thing with wife: A selfish husband doesn’t involve the wife in any kind of decision-making process. He doesn’t feel the need for the wife to be aware of important matters – be it financial or family-related. Hence the wife is always kept in dark and is unaware about many important aspects of her husband’s life.
9. Sex is one-sided: Sex is all about him. The selfish husband does it when he wants and in the way he wants. A selfish husband never considers the likes of the wife in bed.
10. No Surprises, No Gifts, No Romantic outings or getaways: A selfish husband would prefer to hang out with his friends’ gang rather than go out with his wife. He would take initiative in all guy outings or group outings, but never plan something just for the two of you.
Any or a few of the above characteristics don’t make your husband bad or selfish. The reason behind his selfish behaviour could be his parenting or stress or lack of self-awareness.
Attempting an open conversation with him about his selfish behaviours might work wonders in some cases. There are no problems that cannot be resolved. All it takes is some love, care, and consideration towards the other person. So, in case your husband is keen to make the marriage work, we are sure with the right guidance, he could change his selfish behaviours and could turn into the loving husband that you deserve!