How does a successful marriage look like? Does a successful marriage give you everything?
Most of the time, people lose faith in marriages and relationships because of the burden of the unrealistic expectations that they carry. No relationship is perfect and no marriage gives you EVERYTHING!
Recently, Twinkle Khanna aka Mrs. Funnybones used social media to share hilariously worded messages to mark the occasion of her 18th wedding anniversary. Her messages were not only funny but also inspirational at the same time.
Her messages did leave us with insights that no marriage will give you everything, but it will definitely give you what you need the most to make it successful.
Twinkle marked her 18 years of marriage with Akshay Kumar with an ‘18 Year Challenge’ on her social media handle. She shared a series of posts and revealed the answer to the question ‘what did your husband give you for anniversary’.
But as Twinkle likes to make everything funny and quirky, she talked about everything her husband “didn’t” get her on the anniversary which she would have loved to have.
In her first post, she shared a picture of hers climbing aboard an aircraft, with the caption,
“What did your husband give you for your anniversary? Unfortunately, he didn’t give me a private jet #18YearChallenge.”
In her second post, she shared a picture with her childhood crush, Rob Lowe and wrote,
“What did your husband give you for your anniversary? Unfortunately, he didn’t give me a date with my childhood crush Rob Lowe #18yearchallenge.”
In her next post, she posted a picture of Akshay hugging Ranveer Singh and captioned it as,
“What did your husband give you for your anniversary? Unfortunately, he didn’t even give me a freshly wrapped Mr Singh just kept all the hugs for himself #18yearchallenge.”
With her last post, she made a very subtle yet impressive point about successful marriage.
She made it clear that she might not have got everything that she wanted but she definitely got the things that she wanted the most.
In the last post in her series of anniversary wishes for her husband, Akshay, she shared:
“What did your husband give you for your anniversary? Fortunately, he gave me 18 years of solid friendship, enough space so I could grow and somehow managed to hold my hand for a large part of the way. This is not the end – apparently we are just on page 120! #18yearchallenge.”
In her latest interview with Mid-Day, while talking about their 18 years of a strong relationship, Twinkle Khanna detailed out her ideology of a successful marriage:
“I’d say our social, political ideologies, sense of humour, are very different. What’s interesting is that after the first few years, we gave up trying to change each other. What we did instead was start to learn from each other. Luckily all his strengths are my weaknesses and vice versa. What would I learn if we were more like each other anyway?
I really believe two peas in a pod died of inertia. And we are not like that. So we continue to grow. Marriages essentially fail, when you try to clone the other person to become like you, it’s not possible. We’re two different brains.
Mine is a washing machine, whirling, chaotic. His thoughts are neatly folded in the closet of his mind. I need his stability to hem me in. He needs me to push him out of his comfort zone.”
Her beautiful words make us feel that successful marriages are not about “Change” but about “Learn and Adapt”!
So, rather than investing our time to change each other, let’s try to master the art to learn and adapt!