This beautiful letter from a lonely wife to her husband captures her feelings about marriage and an emotional request to her husband to save her and their marriage. This heart-touching letter to the husband from his lonely wife is a true reality of many wives feeling unloved and unappreciated.
I am writing this letter to express what I am feeling for the past few days. Doesn’t matter how much I thought to speak up, I couldn’t gather enough courage to say it in person. I feel my tears and my emotions might choke me if I do it in person.
I could never forget the excitement I saw in your eyes when I first met you. You were not only handsome but kind, intelligent, and ambitious too. It was amazing how from mere strangers we got so close that we decided to get married.
Our life was exciting initially – we enjoyed exotic holidays, night outs with friends. But then life moved fast and we were a married couple with two kids.
Then with time, everything changed.
– I started yearning for your time – Our conversations turned into one-way – Discussions turned into fights, – Things that we used to do for each other started feeling like a burden – We started giving up on each other
At night we lie side by side, never hugging, never speaking. I don’t cry myself to sleep anymore, my tears don’t get me anywhere, no one can hear them.
Since the birth of our second child, I am yearning to be held, to be brought a cup of tea in the morning, to be told I am appreciated, to enjoy life’s simple adventures with the man I am meant to share my life and my world with.
I miss feeling loved. Feeling special. Feeling like a soul mate.
It is heartbreaking to see how you are irritated at every attempt to spend our free time as a couple.
We both work in a full-time job that pays us equally. Then why you treat me as intellectually inferior? Has it ever occurred to you, that the moment you walk through the door of our house, your work is over… But, for me, it still continues?
Doesn’t matter at what time I come back home, I have to do laundry, prepare meals for kids and help them with homework, and much more.
The pressure of doing this all alone is often more than I can bear. I want to scream: “Where is the man I fell in love with?”
And, an honest confession, I feel so saddened when I am surrounded by our friends, who are still in love. Because, it makes me miss more what we had in the past – love.
I feel I am alone in this marriage.
What is even sadder is the fact that even my parents don’t understand it. Whenever I mention my concerns to my parents, their response is – “Darling, he works very hard, please don’t put pressure on him.” Shattered by their response, I am left heartbroken. Where to go if your own parents don’t understand your loneliness!
I do acknowledge that somewhere it was my mistake that I didn’t gather the courage to talk to you about it rather than seeking help from friends and parents. Our differences and arguments scared me that you won’t understand.
Because I don’t want to raise my kids in a family, where there is no love. A family where irrespective of how successful a mother is, she will always be treated lesser than the father. And she would be expected to stretch beyond the means to make the marriage work – all alone.
I am sad. For you. For myself. For our kids. For the life that we were meant to have together.
But frankly, I can’t stay like this. So either you have to start working on our marriage otherwise this unbearable agony would make our marriage wipe off.
I always thought I was unbreakable, but continuing to work on our marriage alone will surely break me. Please don’t let that happen. Please let’s just hold our hands together, and make this work.