This emotional letter from a lonely wife to her husband captures an emotional request to save their marriage. This heart-touching letter is a true reality of many wives feeling unloved and unappreciated.
A Letter To Husband From Lonely Wife
Dear Husband,
I am writing this letter to express my feelings for the past few days. Doesn’t matter how much I thought to speak up, I couldn’t gather enough courage to say it in person. I feel my tears and my emotions might choke me if I do it in person.
I could never forget the excitement I saw in your eyes when I first met you. You were not only handsome but kind, intelligent, and ambitious too. It was amazing how from mere strangers we got so close that we decided to get married.
Our life was exciting initially – we enjoyed exotic holidays and night outs with friends. But then life moved fast and we were a married couple with two kids.
Then with time, everything changed.
– I started yearning for your time
– Our conversations turned into one-way
– Discussions turned into fights,
– Things that we used to do for each other started feeling like a burden
– We started giving up on each other
And one fine day, I understood the heartbreaking truth that I wasn’t your priority anymore.
At night we lie side by side, never hugging, never speaking. I don’t cry myself to sleep anymore, my tears don’t get me anywhere, and no one can hear them.
Since the birth of our second child, I have yearned to be held, to be brought a cup of tea in the morning, to be told I am appreciated, to enjoy life’s simple adventures with the man I am meant to share my life and my world with.
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I feel like I’m invisible in our marriage. I feel so alone. What happened to all the love you had for me?
I miss feeling loved. I miss feeling special.
It is heartbreaking to see how you are irritated at every attempt to spend our free time as a couple.
We both work in a full-time job that pays us equally. Then why do you treat me as intellectually inferior? Has it ever occurred to you, that the moment you walk through the door of our house, your work is over… But, for me, it continues.
Doesn’t matter what time I come back home, I have to do laundry, prepare meals for the kids, help them with homework, and so much more.
The pressure of doing this all alone is often more than I can bear. I want to scream: “Where is the man I fell in love with?”
And, an honest confession, I feel so saddened when I am surrounded by our friends, who are still in love. Because, it makes me miss more what we had in the past – love.
I feel I am alone in this marriage.
What is even sadder is the fact that even my parents don’t understand it. Whenever I mention my concerns to my parents, their response is – “Darling, he works very hard, please don’t put pressure on him.” Shattered by their response, I am left heartbroken. Where to go if your parents don’t understand your loneliness!
I do acknowledge that somewhere it was my mistake that I didn’t gather the courage to talk to you about it rather than seeking help from friends and parents. Our differences and arguments scared me that you won’t understand.
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But, I don’t want to be scared anymore.
Because I don’t want to raise my kids in a family, where there is no love. A family where irrespective of how successful a mother is, she will always be treated lesser than the father. And she would be expected to stretch beyond the means to make the marriage work – all alone.
I am sad. Not just for myself but for you, for our kids, for the life that we were meant to have together.
But frankly, I can’t stay like this. So either you have to start working on our marriage otherwise this unbearable agony will destroy our marriage.
I always thought I was unbreakable, but continuing to work on our marriage alone will surely break me. Please don’t let that happen. Please let’s just hold our hands together, and make this work.
Yours,
Loving Wife